Hey, that would be great if he started exercising with you Look at what a great example you are setting

As for the wedding - do you have any friends or family with a nice back yard? (Or does your new apartment complex have a community room?) I think, with BF's history of wishy-washiness, that getting married and making that commitment in front of friends and family is really important.

I've been to plenty of very nice backyard weddings, and it can be done very inexpensively. Once I even went to a potluck wedding reception - sounds strange, but it was great! They just divided the alphabet, and asked people to bring salads or bread depending on where they were in the alphabet. They had someone grilling fish to go with it. As a guest, I was happy to put out a little extra effort - that's the only time I ever made a carved watermelon basket for my fruit salad

H and I had our wedding reception under a rented tent on a ball field next to FIL's summer house (rains in Syracuse in the summer). We ordered big trays of lasagne from a local restaurant and had a big sheet carrot cake from a local bakery with a gingerbread cookie bride and groom on top. It would be easy to make trays of lasagne yourself and freeze them ahead of time - all you need is a helper to cook andserve - or just get some nice trays of deli meats and rolls from Costco. It's just a big party, after all, and thereare lots of creative ideas out there

Ellie