First off, I can't figure out how to start a new thread - what am I doing wrong?

Secondly, not sure where to turn with my situation, really need some advice! To sum it up I'm 40 yrs old. Had a baby last August - husband left when baby was 7 weeks old. Moved in with another woman, one who is more suitable to his needs. I'm completely distraught - as I'm sure alot of you are. Our divorce should have been final a few weeks ago, but he approached me about possible reconciliation - something I have been asking for since he left. Said he's not completely convinced he's doing the right thing. Since that time, he moved in with his parents for a few weeks and we attended one counseling session, which got us nowhere. He keeps living in the past. I told him I want to work on the marriage, and am willing to give whatever it takes to make it work. His problem with me is that I'm too controlling, and I didn't give him enough attention. He says he still loves me but now resents me for the way I treated him for the past 20 years. About a week ago, he went back to this other woman, and says he still doesn't know what he wants, and he may never know (translation?) He has anxiety attacks when he is around me, and I keep finding myself falling in the trap of BEGGING him to come home, and telling him how hurt I am. I now know this is wrong, but I think it's too late... We have a court date on September 15th (4 days before our anniversary) for our divorce to be final. Not sure how to approach this now. I think after the other night he will probably keep his distance from me. Any suggestions? He told me he would come home if he could be convinced I can change, but all he knows is what happened in the past, and doesn't want to risk being unhappy again... I keep telling him there's no way to prove it except to give it a chance, but he won't listen - his logic keeps telling him to look at what's already happened - (history repeats)... How can I get through to him, and being that we only have a few more weeks of actually being married, I'm not sure I can... Lynne