Quote: dbf, Congrats on your sitch. I am so happy for you. It feels so good to see someone save their R. Keep up the good work.
Thank you.
As far as the trust issue - I don't know if I'd ever NOT have it with someone. I look at the R's here, and my former marriage - and nothing is certain. There are marriages here that have lasted 25 solid years and then it nosedives - whether from a MLC, or a depression, etc.
Trust has to be earned as well. I do my best to trust him, and to let him know what I expect. He knows that I felt deeply betrayed. He knows I still have moments of anger. I sometimes do dwell on what I should have done last year - and if something happens with us again, I'll be just fine. I won't allow myself to be as vulnerable financially and emotionally as last year. There are things that I know he'll do that I won't necessarily like. If he did cheat on me, I might not hang out as long as I have this time. I deserve a man who'll be honest, open and faithful to me.
A wedding wouldn't be for at least several months. We will have been back together two months as of the end of next week or so. I think that will be enough time. That doesn't include that we've spent a lot of time together this year, and really the second half of last year as well.
