Also - keep a little list of the "festering" questions you have - then after a while (little too early yet, I think) - ask him if he can set aside some time for you to ask a few questions you need to clear up. Then go through your list very unemotionally, and TELL him what you would like him to do to make it better (no point in just ragging on him for a bunch of past stuff he can't change.)
Thanks Ellie - that sounds like a great idea. We did have an hour or so talk over ex-OW at one point, and a little bit at other times too. I don't think there will be a lot I want to ask him anymore - but this one thing is on my mind.
I don't want it to necessarily start a discussion. You know how women are especially - we ask one question and then all of a sudden we have 100! Some things are more curiousities. I'm curious as to why he was on Match.com last year if he was so interested in ex-OW. But it may not be worth bringing up at all - it's not upsetting to me, it's just something I wonder.
I am glad that we still ML last year. A lot of our good memories are of those times. It came up during a small talk in the car yesterday - he asked if I was sorry I did, and I said no. I asked if he was, he said no. We had a connection in that sense that he never had with ex-OW.
But I also told him that if he was committed to me, that there is none of that messing around with other women! I dealt with a brief thing he had with someone else at the beginning of our R, and then this at the end of it. I DID mention that yesterday, and I said that I couldn't do that anymore. I need him to be sure he can just be with me.
Thanks. A lot of this weekend sucked - but BF was great. And hopefully my not being upset about his going out will help him stay honest with me.
We had a connection in that sense that he never had with ex-OW.
