Hi dfb, I came across your thread earlier, but didn't have time to post, but I found this to be very profound...
Quote: It's also weird just feeling like we are sort of starting over, but we've known each other for 4 1/2 years. We can't really go through the honeymoon phase anymore (thank goodness), we know each other too well. It's like a really great friendship with ML, and fun, and caring and conversation and stuff thrown in. I like that.
Well, if that doesn't sound like the recipe for a great M than I don't what would be!!
... and I can understand where BF is coming from with gifts. I, too, for the longest time was just the same way. If it wasn't pratical, it was a waste of money. Even with flowers, when I bought them for W they were always the potted kind so she would have them at least thru out the season. It was only a couple years ago that it sunk in that if having cut flowers on the table is what makes her happy, then it is not a waste of money. Now I make sure she gets them at least once a month or more.
Wanting hugs and kisses is not being needy, nor is wanting to see BF one weekday each week. If you have Michelle's book DR, I would recommend reviewing the chapter on "Asking for what you want". It would help give some ideas on ways to gain some reassurances to ease your tension about being needy.
