Thanks everyone here for the great advice. And yes honeypot I see a lot of similarities with our situations. Please bear with me I am new and it will take a bit to get to know everyone although I appreciate greatly that you all have taken time to post and share with me because I am at a loss and don't know what to do.. Let's see well when we do ML I only have the big "O" 1 out of 5 times with him. He is quick and doesn't use much FP so I think that is partially why I have a higher drive. I also think it might be subconcious. This is my second marriage and we have only been married less than a year, together for 3. I was with my first H 8 years and he never lost that desire actually the tables were turned because he wanted it so much I lost some intrest also it was an absive realtionship and so when he treated me badly and later wanted to ML I didn't want to because of the emotional part. Now in my current marriage there hasn't been a lot of expression of his desrie for me and he prefers that I intiate and I get tired I want him to come to me and let me know he wants me too and he isn't doing it out of mercy. I have trouble because I am still trying to accept the fact that most men mbate and he is going to at times I take this as a sign of rejection especailly because he doesn't want to as often with me. He would probably be happy with once a week and me about 3-4 times a week. Now if I felt attractive to him I might not want it as much if that makes sense. And yes I do worry if I take care of myself and he does want to do something and I turn him down he will be discouraged to want to later or anytime soon and I feel like I better take it while I can get it.. ;-) I could still be with him even if I did mbate and have but I tend to be dry and worry he will know and then again be discouraged. I don't know this seems like such a touchy area in our marriage I feel like if I had no SD then we would be fine otherwise. And I have talked to him about how I feel about being rejected and worrying about him pleasing himself but not about me pleasing myself I guess I should I just worry about discouraging and making things worse. All input is greatly appreciated.. Have I left any questions unanswered?
