I hope that I don't say anything inappopriate here. I appolgize if I do. Just searching for a solution. My husband doesn't have near the sex drive that I do. He says that I put a lot of pressure on him because I want it so often and he doesn't. A lot of the time I feel I am just not attractive to him and that is the reason. Right now I want to try the approach of just letting him be and allowing him to have his low sex drive and try not to hold resentments because It might not be me even though I feel that way. What I want to know is by doing this I thought that I would just take care of my own sexual needs and not look to him for that. Where I struggle is I am always afraid to do so because what if I do then he wants to and I have already met my needs myself. Also I feel like he takes care of himself instead of coming to me. But because of his lower sex drive than mine when he does want to I want to be ready and not discourage him.. How do I take care of my needs without bothering him but be ready when he wants to. Then again sometimes I feel like I have worked so hard to do what ever I can to help our sex life and he knows I am so readily available that it makes it easier for him to wait until he's ready. Should I quit putting in so much effort and take care of myself and when he wants to tell him I am not up for it. I guess what I am saying is there is no chase with me because I am almost always ready I am reaching my peek and feel the desire much more often. Sorry if I don't make sense I just don't know how to ask what I am trying to ask I guess.. I am new here so any advice would be greatly appreciated..
