Quote: Last summer I had an EA for about 3 mos. He acts like he will never forgive it.
As a HD man, I think he probably sees it this way. He "Desired" you for years, and you "REjected" him. So he ended up with little choice but to find "Desire" from someone else, you more or less forced him into this choice, as he had no other options. You on the other hand, had a husband that desired you and then choose someone else instead, OVER all the overs of desire he thought he was throwing your way. You had a choice, he did not.
I've had EA. It was a dead end for me but I can see the alure it gives. It is sad to see how many men and women feel they have no choice but to get it outside of marriage. I went into marriage with honest intent and a desire to have S with my wife who was to be my lover. They the rejection over and over started. Pretty soon I felt driven to give up hope and be forced to choose either S outside of M or no S at all.
The funny thing is that when I was involved in the EA, I was so sad and depressed on 1 hand. I was happy to have someone talk to me on the other. I felt miserable and like a cheat. When I got married, I said, I would never have an affair and I never expected h to either! It hurts really bad. It is not worth it. DoO some people really think that they will ride off into a trouble free sunset with the A partner?
