Yes, the combination of MB + celibacy "works," if you want to call it that. While I'm not truly happy, I am nevertheless MUCH less frustrated on a day-to-day basis than I used to be when I was actually thinking/hoping that ML might happen on any given day. It has made my life easier to simply rule it out, love my wife for the otherwise wonderful mother and woman that she is, and spend my time and attention on my own interests and on being a good friend to her and father to my kids.
For this, I too have been called "defeatist." But while I know it's not THE answer, it is AN answer, and it helps me get thru the day.
