Well, last night we had a convo about his coming home late...he wanted to know why I was so upset and what the big deal was. I told him that I was not upset, that I am beyond feeling upset, that the right thing to do as a human being was to call ( thanks wb). He continued on, and wanted to know what was going on in my mind after it turned 11, and I was starting to get fed up, was going to blast him about how inconsiderate he was, but in an act of vulnerability I said to him that I have a hard time falling asleep without him there, and the phone call would help me to know I am thought of and cared about. I said to him that I was hoping one day we both could accept that we need each other. He says to me, " I have you covered" and then we go to bed intertwined with each other and fall asleep...no sex, but this was significant becasue he has stated in the past he can't sleep that way because he needs his space. I was the one to break away, and I am just in this confused place right now while I sort things out.
J