J, Believe it or not, one of the hardest things for me to keep in perspective is that my H is HUMAN. He has failings and he does some really stupid arse things.
If I can keep it in that vein and think, What a stupid thing to do...hmm, anyway what was I doing?, it really helps a lot.
Remember that he is EXPECTING the mean mommy to come out in full force, no matter how much you were HOY. So don't let him have that satisfaction!
Remember Michele's advice of: say your piece and then drop it. Unless they are deaf, they heard you. This is really good advice. I have a tendency to keep droning on and on, because I don't get much of a response from H so I keep ratcheting up my efforts until I get SOME response.
I think you handled it beautifully.
If you can keep positive then think about how motivated he will be to NEVER do it again..he will be so impressed by the way you handle it, he won't even want to act like an adolescent. I think that it is human nature, when faced with the prospect of being nagged, to say f*ck it I'm gonna do what I want. If you take away the mean mommy, then he will have no justification for why he's being inconsiderate.
Can you email him? I find it easier to set the tone for the day via email. That way, I can conjure up all kinds of cheerfulness that I am probably not feeling. But as Michele says, you can influence your feelings with your actions, instead of always letting your actions be dictated by how you are feeling. This has had a really amazing effect on H.
And I have to confess to you: I struggle with this every single freakin day. EVERY DAY I think, Why should I have to be the one to contact him? WHY can't he contact me today, for a change? He is not a very romantic guy...I am truly envious of some of these women who are married to men who wine and dine them in order to get in their pants. Must be nice! I get nothing, no sex and no wining and dining, lol.
So this is a daily struggle for me, but I have been going off results (which there is no question have been stellar) rather than what is fair or right.
Is there anything you can do today to really shock and surprise him, since he's expecting mommie dearest?
