Well, I am back from counseling. H started off by saying that he felt these past 2 weeks have been the best we have gotten along in a long time; he said he felt less pressure from me and that I was less "needy", and that he could respond better to me. The therapist commented that "needy" isn't a bad thing, that there were positives to having needs, and that the word "needy" has a bad connotation. I said I felt less anxious/upset about discussing my needs, and that it's the presentation of those needs that pushed him away. I didn't push to discuss any more of my needs in the session, but I realize now that I have to stay with the PM approach...self-soothe, and be firm in what it is that I want, without becoming an emotional wreck. I feel I am on the right path. J
