J, I totally agree with you--that was not a dud nite at all! Sounds pretty darn good to me.
Here is my definition of a dud nite: When I want something more, he doesn't, and he pulls a bunch of crapola to "get out" of it.
Regarding the initiation thing, boy, do I hear you. It has taken me forever to get comfortable with doing anything more than, as one poster put it a while back, showing up and looking pretty. And in my heart of hearts, I STILL want that to be enough. But it isn't, and I am learning that what he says is true--he DOES respond to the more physical-type initiations so I've been doing it a lot more lately.
I also notice that with the increasing EC, it is easier to do this. You know, it is clear (in hindsight) just how much the intimacy had eroded between us. When we first started trying to resolve this, I couldn't even say "sex", and "making love" was even hard to spit out. How silly is that!
Things have really changed for the better and the BEST part of all, for me, is being freer to be myself. And not have to edit 99% of the things I want to say or do. To me, that is true intimacy...the freedom to be yourself and know that you will not be rejected in a hurtful way.
Anyway, I wish you a great night. Let us all know how it turns out..
