Hi J, Well that incident you were talking about would have freaked me out too. At first, I thought that the whole thing didn't make sense...first he is acting HD and then he doesn't want to participate for himself.
And then I started wondering if he was worried about his performance..? Meaning, you had just had sex the night before and maybe he was worried about his ability to get an erection the day after, or how long it would take him to come, or whatever. Clearly he was feeling desirous of you and then for some reason it fizzled. Rather than turn it back on yourself, (boy do I know how tempting that is!) I would continue to place the emphasis on him and try to think of the things that might have been going thru his head.
My H is 37 but he will sometimes make comments about not being a teenager anymore, etc, so I know that this is a concern of his, also.
To your knowledge, has your H ever experienced any erectile difficulties?
With my H it is entirely a desire problem--or, rather, his mind convinces his body of whether it is horny or not, instead of the other way around. His thought process can ruin a perfectly good vibe we have going on.
however, the weekend sounded awesome!! He is really starting to break out of his resentful shell. When he made that comment about the hand holding, it really became clear just how much resentment he is holding on to. I can be a resentful person (though I am getting lots better) so I know how hard it is to ditch those negative feelings.
