Hi HP, well, it's date nite and he is putting the kids to bed. We do go out( usually a movie, or dinner,sometimes alone and sometimes w friends)...my youngest is almost 10 so it is easier than when you have young ones, although thinking about it, it's important to make couple time whatever the ages of the kids. Anyway, early on in our relationship I was the more affectionate one and he was more reserved...he was attracted to my warmth and became affectionate back. I would say in some ways he became even more loving, in the little things he did and such. I see now how my being LD for a good part of the marriage must have affected him; at the time, I did not get it. After we had kids, I saw him as a needy child and really just wanted a friendship type marriage, and resented his sexual needs. Tonight we went to dinner, and afterwards we walked around and I took his hand. As we were walking he said to me, " I remember when you thought holding hands was stupid." I said I was wrong, and I could feel him distancing for awhile, but then things got normal again and we had a nice evening.I wonder if something has been lost forever between us. I just took a bath but I am feeling a little LD tonite...but as Schnarch says I will attempt to heal the past in the present and have a nice nite with him tonite. J
