The board is very quiet today...I'm hoping everyone is out there having fun! Last nite and this am H and I have had a lot of EC ( hugging and feeling good with each other). I think he is feeling less pressure for the EC to turn into ML and is less withholding. I am trying not to feel too sensitive that he isn't turned on by me and am just enjoying the connection. I keep thinking about this dynamic where he withholds, I begin to prod him, he finds me annoying and I get upset, and that gets him motivated. This just doesn't work for me. Having him spontaneously give me affection( without ML) is a step forward. I think what happens on "date nites" is that he gets it in his head that it's the right thing in a normal relationship to have sex and he pushes himself and makes the effort. It hurts that he doesn't have more spontaneous desire for me, but I am no longer going to push him into sex. ( yeah right). Instead, I want to focus that he is putting himself out there by offering me more affection than in the past. I don't understand why the emotional connection doesn't turn into sexual feelings for him the way it does for me, but it doesn't unless I get upset, which I am not willing to do anymore. J
