Hi InnerJourney I am glad things worked out in the end. I know sometimes it is hard because we feel selfish but at the same time it is like we have a right to ask. My problem to is becoming overly sensitive and taking things way to personal when he doesn't want to and normally end up saying something and we get in a fight because I want to and he doesn't so I try to keep it to myself. My counselour gave me the book "Divorce Busting" a few weeks ago to read and it has helped a lot that's how I found this site.. And I have been trying to quit asking everynight and putting pressure on him changing things around a bit.. And being loving even if he isn't in the mood giving him the message it is okay if he isn't.. And the other night to my suprise... I told him shortly after he got home from work I said I just want you to know I am feeling frisky so I want to be with you tonight if you aren't too tired. Are you?? He was joking and said as long as you do all the work.. But he was playing anyway I didn't ask I just told him how I felt and then last night made it a point not to ask or start anything letting him know I will only initate when I really want to and not as often as I have been so maybe that will help. I used to love to be woke up in the middle of the night and ML wow that is spontanious but only have gotten to once with hubby..
