MM, Stop falling behind...role playing is officially OFF the list. The major obstacle I have faced this yr with him has been his "withholding" behavior, which has been my "punishment" for being a horrible wife. We are both beginning to enjoy feeling emotionally reconnected, but I am still the "needy" one. As long as I project an insecure, I'll back down attitude with him, he hits me with a defensive, ungiving, closed off response. So, the idea for me is to stay strong, assertive and clear, not settle, but not be unrealistic. With all that in mind, my goals are: 1. Keeping consistency...ML 2x/week 2. A good attitude...not a problem when he initiates, but he has to be human when I make advances in some way. No more hurtful rejections. 3. Keeping emotionally connected during the day...hugs before and after work, talk and cuddle time, phone calls. EC when out with other people. Resolving tension. 4. Continuing counseling to improve communication regarding sex and other issues. 5. Increasing the EC during sex and adding novelty( this includes working on verbal communication when ML)
