I see something very hopeful in your relationship. I actually think it is a good sign that the two of you have flip-flopped HD/LD. It gives you the advantage of recognizing that you aren't necessarily a HD or LD person, you are just currently in that role in your relationship. Imaginge that you and your husband were both people who really cared about how your living room was decorated. You might want French Provincial and your H might be dead set on Modern Minimilism. If you asserted your will very strongly on the issue, you might end up with a French Provincial living room, but a husband unwilling to help with the project and unhappy to spend any time in the room. I think a similar dynamic can play out in some marriages sexually. Maybe you and your H are just having trouble finding an Eclectic style that would suit both of you, but it's worth the trouble to try because then you'll have a stylish living room that you love spending time in together.
MM ( Queen of the Analogy- did I mention my high SAT scores-LOLOL)
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
