I can only say that if I'd been your H's OW, and you had written me an e-mail saying you wanted him, loved him, and were willing to work hard on the marriage, I'd have backed off. I wouldn't have been able to handle the guilt. My H's ex had my e-mail address, but never tried to contact me. (I had hers, too, but wanted to leave it up to her whether she wanted to talk to me or not). In the end, I thought it was her marriage and her choice whether she wanted him to stay or leave, and I would have accepted whatever decision she made.
