The hard part is knowing which way is the right way at the right time with the right person...RIGHT?
I think the posts were all right-on. Yes, it does seem that there are lots of call backs and sometimes, some WAS would HATE that, but it seems that yours for the most part is reassured and pleased by that. My X who worked in the ER , would hate if I bugged him at work to clarify anything. And yep, I tended to run at the mouth before the brain and leave too many things unclarified....most guys would rather women say it short and sweet BUT in this case, your guy seems to enjoy this 'banter'. And this is important: there is an abundance of miscommunication out there, and for PAs especially, miscommunication serves the PA coping mech well...so if we can help retrain the communication process so that there IS clarification...then the misunderstandings, resentment , hostility and punishment might abate. YEA!!!!!!
I also think that X is behaving 'intimately' with you in the guy way: guys often feel that intimacy is DOING things together, and talking on the phone is a biggie guy intimacy thing. (Weird, but true.) So, even tho WE actually know what true intimacy is ....BABY STEPS.
Re your 'habit' of 2nd guessing , overanalyzing and rethinking stuff: I think fixers get TRAINED to do that when we have partners who withhold giving us information about their true feelings...and then of course we get blamed for overanalyzing. Damn, can't we do anything right? THings are looking better BETs....keep plugging. And please, I need help with the weight issue....bought some cortislim (suupposedly stops the cortisol hormone from adding weight) HA...gained 5 pounds since taking it! HELP...before I resort to cutting off half of me to lose weight. gd
