Betsey, Yikes! I didn't mean to make you 2nd guess anything - it was more for me than for for you!
I agree w/ Myrrh that your conv's and call backs go very well - that is, I don't see it as a problem in your sitch at all. Both of you seem to respond very well when either of you has rethought something and called back to clarify. You both seem to appreciate it. I just noticed that it happened several times.
I was more asking for myself, perhaps bec. I don't feel I have the oppty. (yet?) to call back. After hanging up I often feel I could have said something better, or explained the feeling/fear behind my answer more clearly. But we're not at the point you are . . . so calling back would muck it up more. He is a man of few words, and me far too many!
I have been working on slowing down - but I don't think I've really tried taking pauses effectively. But I still fumble for a response which says I've heard you, I'm thinking, or I need more time to think on that. That's not easy for me. I also struggle w/ keeping 'emotion' out of my voice which makes him think 'uh oh, she's upset, stop talking' and it's not always the case. I may be emotional, but not upset nor hurt.
Anyways, those are my issues - and I muse what I could do to answer w/o all that 'stuff' in the way.
