Quote: How could we slow down our responses to avoid having to go back and give the more appropriate response? I'd like to try to get 'right' on my first go...
Well, the first step in getting here is to recognize those times when we are stuck. I seem to have trouble unsticking myself when I find myself questioning Mr. Wonderful's responses or motives. Or in this case, my own.
I guess I have a question back for you and anyone else... is it important to take care of this stuff in one phone call?
For me, sometimes it helps to have some time to digest what has been said--to allow him to think about our convo and to give me time to analyze my fears and gain some insight on how I could have handled things better.
I can honestly say that my mouth is not running at the speed of light anymore. There are lots of pauses in our conversations. When in doubt, I elect to keep my mouth shut before voicing my on-the-spot opinion or answer.
It would have been easy to say to him when he offered to take D7 (giving into my fear of letting go), "No, D7 and I have plans with her friend and her mother."
That would have been true. We DID have plans to meet them at the pool after I get home. Unfortunately, it is chilly and rainy so I don't think that's going to happen. During my 1st call with him, I realized I was scared of saying yes, but I didn't know why. As we hung up, I realized that my fear was not valid nor was it appropriate.
I knew that my sideways answer was not an answer to him. Was it bad to realize this in concrete fashion after hanging up?
For whatever reason, I'm feeling better about communicating with him and clearing up misconceptions rather than sitting on them and wondering what he thought and getting anxious about how much better I could have handled things.
I guess I'm second guessing myself from your question?
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
