Friends: Season 5--New perspectives

[maya]

Bets,
Not a lot of time to post but I wanted to chime in...no whacks from me for going ahead with the mowing. I think it is important to go ahead with our plans especially when they disappoint us. We need to be moving forward always. The space was there for him to jump on board but he missed the opportunity. That should NOT keep you back.

He will notice that you went ahead with the lawn chairs and the mowing and you did NOT nag him in wny way. He will think about these ....he won't know what to make of them, necessarily...but he will think about them long and hard!

maya

[Briget]

Hi Friends.

I miss all of you. I haven't beenon much because I still dont have my Puter.

I get on a couple of times a day to read and I try to post but I keep getting booted of.

I'm kind of lonley on my thread and could use a ear or two.
I think I'm about to head into a rough patch.

Later Friends.
Briget

[Underdog]

Hello ladies (and gentlemen too),

Good to log in and find good spirits here. I'm listening to a Fleetwood Mac in concert (live) on PBS and enjoying having a few minutes to read and post. D7 is watching a movie...

Mr. Wonderful just left, and I think he would have stayed longer had Lindsey Buckingham not made the segue into one of his weird solo songs. Oh, well, it's been a decent evening.

Maya, hope I can salvage some of his masculinity now. I left the back yard for him to mow, and I did an excellent job gushing at the way he uses his weed whacker.

Dinner was good and he was even complimentary on the cod. He seemed surprised that D7 enjoys fish. Guess his menu repertoire isn't as adventurous as mine. Well, I'm more of a risk taker, so I guess it's part of my overall package. And might I add that it's a sad commentary when fish is considered exotic? Must be, compared to mac & cheese and peas...

Anyway, I wasn't feeling great so I dodged the gym and ended up chatting with my DB buddy Triple J on the phone instead. So I was still dressed in my work duds, which are new and casual since my boss is out of town. (When the cat's away, the mice play. At least they dress more casually!)

He was mowing when I walked in, so I headed out the patio doors to find D7 playing with the weed whacker and him behind the mower. I waved and he looked up and appeared very startled. I am not sure what he was thinking, but I'm fairly certain my appearance had something to do with the shock.

Oh, I'm wearing a pair of petite sized capris with a really cute black sleeveless sweater. Did I mention that I'm already below my pre-D7 weight with only a few to go to pre-D10 weight?

Anyway, I was in the kitchen getting stuff out for dinner when I asked him if he would like a beer. Triple J told me he'd want one after recuperating one day. He was right. I went downstairs to the basement fridge and grabbed him a cold one and me a Fresca. I unscrewed the cap for him and set it on the counter and he smiled really nicely and said, "Thanks!"

I grinned back and said, "You're very welcome!"

I turned to do something at the sink when he spoke, "Bets, you are looking SOOOOOO good. How much are you down now?"

I commented, "30. And I have 8 to go before I get where I want to be."

He replied, "I'm so impressed. You look wonderful. You should be really happy and proud of yourself, because I am."

I thanked him for the compliment. And I know he notices all this stuff, even if he doesn't comment on it.

I had a few phone calls and a visitor show up... all parents of friends of both the girls. I told him the nature of the 1st call, since it was the mom of D7's good friend who has decided to call me and tell me about D7s day at camp (since D7 can't talk, she tells me her version).

Visitor was D10's girl scout leader, also a friend of mine. She walked to my door and exclaimed loudly, "HOLY COW! BETS, YOU LOOK INCREDIBLE!" I saw Mr. W. turn the corner and my friend winked at him.... who went first?



He got the hot tub all squared away for summer and hung out to watch a bit of Fleetwood Mac before he asked me if I wanted him to take D7 so I could rest? I thanked him for the offer, but told him I was fine and that he could go home to hit the sack early.

He gave me a weird sort of smile and thanked me (for what? I'll take that) and said he would call me tomorrow.

And that's it from my neck of the woods.

Betsey

[Underdog]

Joanne,

My question is: Do you need to experience the lack of 20's-life in your mid-life if you missed out the first time around?

I don't know if I would consider this a precursor, but maybe it's part of a package deal? One where the person did not have the freedom to speak out and make decisions without being punished? Or the freedom to make mistakes so they could learn consequences?

All I know is that I played out my impetuousness and foolishness early on. I gave my parents fits, but I actually ended up okay. At least I think I'm okay?

[holdingon]

Joanne,
My Hs history sounds similar to yours. I think maybe they do have to do some hell raising to figure out what the fuss is NOT about... I know I did. Partied enough in HS to have had enough... But H was forced to be an adult when his dad left, something I WON'T do to my kids. Add that to NO role model for how to be a man and well, I guess I shoulda seen this coming.

Betsey! Can I live through you? Just for now?? I know things aren't moving fast enough for you... but, girlfriend, they are MOVING. You don't deserve the wait, but it sure makes life interesting, don't it??

[SadBurl]

He replied, "I'm so impressed. You look wonderful. You should be really happy and proud of yourself, because I am."

Great isn't it wonderful that he said that. Bets I just let out a big ahhh and raised a few eyebrows in the office. Yikes need to watch.

Did you pay your friend to come over? Good grief her timing couldn't have been better. Don't you love it when a plan comes together. You are a star!!

As for the elephant is it made of chocolate!?

God bless

[Heart2Heart]

He replied, "I'm so impressed. You look wonderful. You should be really happy and proud of yourself, because I am."

Awesome! It feels so good to lose the weight, and better still with feedback like this from Mr. W.!!!!!

Sounds like a nice night in your neck of the woods - I'm so glad you had a good evening & certainly caught his attention.

All I know is that I played out my impetuousness and foolishness early on. I gave my parents fits, but I actually ended up okay. At least I think I'm okay?

Excuse me for stating the obvious, but I'd say most of us here would say you're WAY more than okay!

Hugs,
-H2H

[Briget]

Come see if I messed up or if what I did will do any good and let me know if I have gone far enough.

I'm afraid I have been crazy making. Or maybe it is just my fear that is gotten ahold of me.

Later Friends.
Briget

[Underdog]

Briget--I posted on your thread a little while ago...

I really don't have much to update. To my chat buddies, I seem to have problems getting in to IM until about 2:30 my time... my colleague does too and he's going to try and figure out why. That means I get to work!

Nothing big happening with Mr. W. He still calls to chat, and did so yesterday afternoon. Left me 2 VM (one here at work, and one on cell) to call him back. They were upbeat convos and not very personal, but caring. I had to cut it short when D7 missed the toilet...

Only 3 days until D10 comes home. My mom says she is mourning... but Mr. W. and I are excited. I've missed her!

Betsey

[Underdog]

Quick journal. Slowly, this is for you because I had to follow my own advice to you in your thread. Fortunately, I caught it right away. But it didn't have anything to do with eating.

Mr. Wonderful just phoned and started out the convo:

MW: "Bets, I have a little emergency and I need your help. Actually, it's a favor."

Me: "Okay. What?"

MW: "I got a call from Doodlebutt and he reminded me I signed up to play on the work golf foursome today for a benefit. My problem is that the guys I could call to sub for me are all on vacation together in Mazatlan, so I have to do it. Is there any way you can pick up D7 from camp?

I know it means you have to miss working out, but maybe I can help by taking her to my apt for the night?"

Me: I don't like giving her up when I'm supposed to have her. "Sure, I can pick her up. No problem."

MW: "The truth is, I really want to hang out and play with her and get a few cuddles from my little cuddle monster."

Me: "I understand. Are you sure? I had a nightmare with the bus issue with summer school starting today. She's really grumpy."

MW: "Good, then I can give you a break tonight."

We signed off and I immediately hit his autodial number to call him back....

Me: "K, I'm sorry if I sounded so rigid before. Of course, you can take D7 tonight. I really don't want to sound like a butthead."

MW: Laughing hard. "I didn't think you were a butthead. I was just grateful that you were so flexible about missing your workout because of my miscommunications with you. I really, really appreciate it."

Me: Smiling. "My pleasure."

We then discussed D10 and how she is really dreading coming home... and her exciting morning riding in the police helicopter. He was most interested in hearing how she fared in that, and I was happy to relay her excitement about it, right down to the emergency landing so they could chase an armed car jacker, without her on board...

So I guess it's never too late to learn flexibility and humility. Jeez, I keep hoping I don't have to take this class anymore. How come it keeps popping up for me?

I can't wait to graduate from this University of Hard Knocks!!!

Betsey