Remember to let him know that when he does the mowing, it always looks so much nicer! (sort of like eating someone ELSE's salad I guess). Yep, he is wanting to do acts of service and that is good...BUT if it isn't YOUR love language, then it can be a bit of a double edged blade (lawn mower, get it ) Sometimes, we have to deal with the PA 'after ALL I've done for HER' type of thinking. My X was like that. He'd do acts of service and EXPECT that it would suffice. 25 years of acts of service but never a word of affirmation DIDNT work. And I resented never hearing that I was a good deal, a great mom, needed in his life (heaven forbid that he should ever say he NEEDED me ). SO, encouraging and AFFIRMING his acts of service...definitely. Just the fact that he wants to is AWESOME (and a sign, don't you think, that his resentment is evaporating?) but at some point you do have to let him know what makes YOUR heart skip a beat too.
Well, I have delayed long enough. Gotta listen to trial transcripts. 15 tapes worth...[censored]. I'm a mess and the worst ever procrastinator...but then, I now have a clean house, tho no hermit crab to be found.
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