Quote: In my eyes, initiating a date right now is a big BOZO NO NO.
Okie doke ... but I still think the goal is to lead up to one-on-one time. So let's start out small and work our way towards familar territory...
Quote: We had done nothing up to that point other than go out to lunch, bowling or sit outside our building on a park bench and eat lunch together. (We worked together.)
I hear what you're sayin about "a woman should let the man do the pursuing", but that doesn't mean need to sit idly by until he gains the gumption. Waddya say to starting today with meeting Mr. W in the yard after he's just finished cuttin the lawn with some cold ones (stick beverage of your choice here) and hang out in the shade for a few ... say 20-30 minutes. Strike up a lighthearted convo on say .... golf?
... maybe lead into ... "Say you know what I realized I haven't done in a long while? Gone bowling. I had some fun doing that." ... next topic or time to attend to ... (whatever).
What about a picnic lunch in a park where the kids can play in a plaground over yonder for a while as you and Mr. W sit on a blanket in the grass soaking up some rays (with sunblock, of course!)
Maybe set up some couch time one evening by suggesting to watch something of interest. Sure there can be a free cushion between the two of you, but no one else in the room. (hint: after the kiddies bedtime) Maybe have a glass of wine to help relax a bit.
Create those brief moments where he can just look you in the eyes ... and then he will have to face why he still is hanging onto the resentment or experience it melting away. I can attest to how effective it can be.
