Hi Bets, Hope the movie was a 'good date'. Re maya and heart to hearts differing interpretations: Funny, but when you've lived with a P/A, it is easy to take maya's interpretation. Especially knowing that P/A men will often do things UNconsciously 'giving' you a night off and then doing it LATE so you have to scramble to make any plans.
On the other hand, heart is completely right in that if you complain, esp. to a P/A...chances are he won't do it again because 'she didn't appreciate it, she is trying to control etc'
I think the DB thing to do is to take the high road and act as if he was just trying to do a nice thing...and to remember that when HE apologizes too...that is definitely NOT a P/A thing!!!!!
It probably comes down to when we were all IN LOVE...we didnt second guess motives because we hadn't yet been hurt. To get the love back, I think you really do have to do a 180 and just decide to put positive spins on his actions to reap more positive actions.
With a born and bred PA...they will take advantage of this,but Bets, somehow I get the feeling that Mr. W. LEARNED how to be a PA instead of starting out that way. So maybe, with enough love and trust, he can SNAP OUTTA IT. (thinking Cher when I write that). At some point, I think we have to change how we respond to a PA and maybe, hopefully, even point out when we see things as PA. But that is only after all the good feels come back!
Just checking in to see what happed last night...glad you got to go as a family, tho I would have loved to meet you and D7 for a Harry Potter fix!
