Friends: Season 5--New perspectives

[holdingon]

you have every RIGHT to control YOUR outcome, but you are banging your head against the wall if you think that by initiating a 'd' that you can control the outcome of k - to tell us that you would like to initiate this to get him to move

Yep.

I have been thinking about this ... cause you know, i do think too much... and I was thinking this morning that you are slipping back into letting the sitch control you, or trying to control your H... neither of which is a good place to be. WE need to just get on with life. WE need to just let our Hs be. I have no desire to initiate a D so there is really no reason for me to lament what if I do... my goal here must be to ride this out, and I need to do that from a distance, while enjoying my life the best that I can, in spite of the circumstances. It is the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life.