bets - wow - i have been away for two days and come back to all of this
what a blessing this board is eh? you have many things to ponder - but in the end, only you can make the decision
i read with total interest the whole "growing faster" theme and i have to soak that all in before i can respond, but surely this has to be what everyone talks about when they finally say they "let go"
i have to go back to something love2win said
Quote: Well, IMHO, either way we end up leaving them feel "guilt-ridden". If you file, it may make him wise up but I don't think so. I think it will take a while for him to realize what he's doing and if you go this route, it would be "after" the D. Once again, YOU...would be making the call, making the decision, taking the blame.
hmmm - that is pretty powerful stuff right there - when you mentioned that you were entertaining the possibility of starting the 'd' process that immediately sounded like a 'control' thing - mind you this is only my opinion - but we share past 'control' issues so my thought was that you are trying to control the outcome
i guess what i am saying is this - you have every RIGHT to control YOUR outcome, but you are banging your head against the wall if you think that by initiating a 'd' that you can control the outcome of k - to tell us that you would like to initiate this to get him to move - well do you see where i am going with this???
just something to think about - i don't want you in limbo anymore darlin - i know what that feels like, and quite frankly it sucks
but next time come out and tell us - i think i am gonna initiate a 'd' because I JUST CANNOT STAND TO BE IN LIMBO anymore and i want to move on with my life
maybe i just see a difference, i don't know...
i can't wait to get back home so that we can 'chat'
