Betsey, How are you not exhausted? It seems you're expected to be the fixer of all. The timing thing? Oh, it's just a silly excuse. I know you apologized for it, and I think you did the right thing by doing so, but honestly, Bets, he chose to read the letter. He had to have an inkling of what was going to be there, and he CHOSE to read it anyway. He could have handed it back and asked if it could wait, he could have put it aside until he was ready. He didn't.
My H says he's still bitter about all of the times I pushed conversations on him at the "wrong" time. Like you, if I waited for the "right" time, I would have never had a single conversation.
Now, before I need to talk, I say, "Is this a good time for you?" I don't think the answer has ever been "no."
It's not the timing, it is the fact that they have to deal with things that they don't want to deal with.
And, if ANYONE knows how to change that, well, you get the blue ribbon for the day.
