JJ - great suggestion by totite - a success forum would be great. It would help us to post what worked for us, and give inspiration to newbies or even people piecing that are feeling like "when will this work" or even "does this work?" And very nice of you totite to stick around. I am personally very grateful to this BB and I am trying hard to "give back" by posting to people needing help. It just seems so hard when your H comes back to you, doesn't it? Suddenly, you have so much to do in your life. Happily, of course.