This article is about couples that remarry - each other. It talks about what drew them back to each other - people admit their mistakes in thinking that changing their mate made them happy. I can soooo relate to that one - I tried telling my H that when he moved out, but it was something he had to discover on his own.
Lucky for me, he discovered it relatively quickly compared to some of the other WAS on this BB.
I'd say that the biggest stumbling block in our new R is that I am hesitant to being vulnerable again. I know I have to be in order to fully engage in the R, but it is tough. I have this nagging voice in my head that I shouldn't do it so I won't get hurt again.
For the most part though, things are good. We tend to talk about a variety of topics - conversing had gone by the wayside as things deteriorated. We try to discuss things when we don't agree - we were good at avoidance before.
So we while we both learned from the past mistakes, we still have a long way to go.
I do lurk on familiar threads, but if someone wants some insights, please drop me a line and I'll see if I can provide any perspective.
My H and I are still piecing, but maybe I'll convince JJ to start a forum for those of us who successfully reunited with our WAS but don't post as often any more. It would make it easier for those looking for a lift to find us. I had to really dig to find this thread.
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
