I sense some resentment in your post that your H did not take an interest in DB methods and therefore you are still the only one aware of this "secret" formula that now guides your actions. If he reads it or not, I think it is important to share your new perspective on things as they arise so at least he can understand your thought process. Without this disclosure, you could be depriving your R of the extra stamina it may need when challenging times arise. It doesn't mean he has to subscribe to everything the book espouses but it would probably be interesting to solicit alternatives from him if he wasn't comfortable with one of the priciples. Solutions mutually crafted can be much more effective and, who knows, he might have some great ideas to "tweak" what you are already doing. It just sounds like you are still the one carrying much of the heavy weight and that can get tiring and frustrating.
Just my thoughts...be well (I'm very happy for you!)
