Just a bit of an update.....on a more positive note.
H came home last night....and was much more chatty...friendly (tho not actually warm and cozy). But non-the-less kind and appreciative of dinner, etc. Then this morning, while he was on the tread and I was drinking my coffee....he asked if I wanted to talk some. I said, yes.....
Long story short....we both talked about the airport pick-up incident...our separate perspectives...frustrations, etc. Then I suggested that we talk more regualarily about "us" and our R, when there isn't an issue or problem to resolve....to communicate better....so we don't slip into old habits. He agreed....said he realizes we both fall into taking each other for granted, make assumptions, and get off track. Anyway....overall...I listened, validated....let him go on and on about his work pressures...he acknowledged my pressures at home, work, family....and we both agreed to try to put ourselves in each other's shoes more often. It was good. Then just before he left for work, I mentioned the book LOve Languages.....I'd never told him about it. He kind of rolled his eyes....but after hearing my brief summary of the book and analyzing his and my LL...he came over and gave me a big bear hug (mine is physicl touch)....and I joked and said.....I won't be crabby and I'll be more giving....if I get fed with this more often. It fills me up. He smiled and kissed me. So, in a way...it was good input...but I lightened it up, so he could hear it.
Thanks for letting me go here and all your supportive feedback.....I know this BB gives me guidance to think more clearly and get on track...when I start slip-sliding.
