Your insights are very helpful for me. You are so right....
Quote: Sometimes we forget WE are NOT the ONLY ones who need healing.
The WAS also needs to feel reassured that they are still loved even and especially after their horrendous behaviour.
Yes, we still love them, even though it hurt.
This really helps me to think "outside" of myself.....our own past hurt, can really slow us down.
His behavior is the key.....and it's very steady.....
Now to catch up on the news since my B-day.
Well, my H really came through.....a homemade card, with a poem and an "I LOVE YOU" in the poem.....diamond earrings, and a nice homecooked meal. We had a great week-end away....back to our ole stomping grounds where we met, went to college, fell in love, got married, had our first child....too much fun.. It had been over 16 yrs since we had been there.
He still has moments of stress....usually triggered by work pressures...and we have our mis-communications....but are both remedying them quickly.
I am thanking God daily for the work that is going on in our home. Man....it's been quite a year.
I will be starting new post....soon. We are no longer in neutral....we are steady into at least 3rd gear!....Looking forward to each new step. It still takes a lot of work and concentration, no to slip into old habits....I no longer want to take any or all of this for granted, and get sloppy in nurturing the R. I am still careful not ot pressure.....not to push too hard. The ILY's are starting....2 so far.....I'm still letting him pursue that....
