KAW, Nik, & Slowly....

Thanks so much for the heartfelt responses on my post. It's so cool to have these cyber friendships, with such genuine honesty and true caring.

Nik....and Slowly.....the "patient" thing is obviously, perhaps the most important lesson I am learning here. And growing up I was always described as the "patient one" in the family, work, friends....WOW Not near enough when it really matters in the most important relationship (on earth that is!!)

KAW I loved this comment:
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So try not to sweat lack of the ILY at this stage and know that when he does finally say those three little words ... he will be committed to every syllable.



That really hit the nail on the head. That describes my H....he only does and says what he really means deep inside. He's not about saying/doing things just to make another feel good. (That's why is hurt so deeply when the OW was in the picture ) But you are RIGHT....his behavior is so pos....it's time to just enjoy the ride and take it at it's comfortable, slow and steady speed.

H called last night (out of town, again...) he was fairly cheerful, friendly...slightly warm. WE talked about plans for my B-day in Oct. We're going to our ole stomping ground...out west where we first met, fell in love, college town, got married, had our first child, house, etc. We haven't been there for 16 years! Even might take in the University's football game....which we had season tickets to after we graduated for 4-5 years. He was totally up for that too....and he has 2 free United tickets for us to use.

So, I will take all your advice and try to keep my pace realistic.

THANKS SO MUCH!!

Mooka