Mooka....just been kinda scanning the bbb's lately..but I remember yours...wow......things are great..don't know if you remember mine or not, I am the one who is only about 30 miles from you..h and I were s for almost 2 yrs, now HAPPILY back..oh well, if you are interested check in on my posts between Feb and May..
I know the patience thing, and have been offering it to others here..in the beginning I wanted things to move quick..now know that it does not work like that. I too have found great comfort in God and all that he does for us. Like you I believe He was the main intervention in my m.
As far as the "talk" with your h, my h came clean and we discussed everything right up front..and for many weeks though, I had to keep asking little things that bothered me about "her"..he was more than willing to talk..but i will say just the other night(funny..our d moved into his apt..cause of lease thing, ) but the ow called to his apt, and left message about getting her bowling ball out of the locker(they were on a team together)blah..blah blah and how were he and I doi..well of course I said are you going to call her..he was ok with the question, but looked at me funny and said "sometime"..then I kept pushing about giving her the key..he said he would..but the funny thing was at 2 the next morning his cell phone rang(anyone who knows my story knows there many late night calls)..well it woke me right up, as it plays some weird music..and h was sleeping downstairs on couch(not all the time!!, but he gets restless legs..hot upstairs, and goes downstairs)and I crept down..he was awake, but did not wake up till the last ring..of course guess who I thought it was..figured "her" new bf had dumped her, and now she wants h again..anyway..he got up and looked at number, but it was some strange area code, with no name..so i went back to bed..could not sleep for a long time..next day asked him if he knew why I cam down..he said he assumed because I thought it was her..I said if she were to start that again would he tell me..he said he" guessed he should"..and then said and "I would have to tell her to stop"..so I felt better after the "guessed he should" of course he should. I have stolen your post..sorry..just wanted to let you know that the "talk" really does clear the air, and allows total healing..but, again, do it in h time...my h told me he had a "god" moment..he was laid off from work in Jan..works at our church part time with finances..but that thet time off made him really think about what he had done..a stupid thing, that had hurt me..he had asked God for forgiveness and me...and I have truly given it to him...
So keep your faith..patience...strength, as you have well learned, all good things come in their own time.
