Quote: I don't know what you said that "pressured" him into having a talk with son, but I would think a safe approach would have been to validate his point on the importance of communicating being a high priority in not only the R between you two, but to expand those lines with your kids and everyone else you hold dear.
In valuing his views so, while stating your's that he should talk to son should avoid putting him on the defensive.
From his words, he's taking the "textbook" steps back to M and your approach with the ILY's is on the mark. By the approach he is taking, he's working on figuring out what the definition of love is. Then it'll hit him that your R meets all the requirements of that definition. That's not only when you will hear the words but also feel the significance behind them. Just a little further down the road ... can't say how much further ... but its definately on his map!
Reading your more objective responce really is reassuring. Thanks
BTW, yesterday he was a little on the edge before leaving for work. He was pleasant, but not as warm as usual. Then after work, I was light...shared bits of my day that made him laugh....he warmed right up. In fact....he mentioned that he's now cancelled his phone and TV cable at the apt....I said..."Wow that's a sign of a true committment!" He laughed and said..."you're right it really is!"
We had a really nice evening....the air is cleared and we're continueing on the forward track.
