Anytime! ... and right back ach ya for the kind words.
Quote: Well I got what I wanted to hear...in his words. He then asked me if I was satisfied....and discussed how I could have brought this whole thing up w/o putting H on the defensive. I accepted his point of view....and inside was feeling really good.
Quote: That we are now focused on each other and making our R the main priority and communicating ...
I don't know what you said that "pressured" him into having a talk with son, but I would think a safe approach would have been to validate his point on the importance of communicating being a high priority in not only the R between you two, but to expand those lines with your kids and everyone else you hold dear.
In valuing his views so, while stating your's that he should talk to son should avoid putting him on the defensive.
From his words, he's taking the "textbook" steps back to M and your approach with the ILY's is on the mark. By the approach he is taking, he's working on figuring out what the definition of love is. Then it'll hit him that your R meets all the requirements of that definition. That's not only when you will hear the words but also feel the significance behind them. Just a little further down the road ... can't say how much further ... but its definately on his map!
