Just popping in to check on some of you and to give a brief (?) update.
Things are progressing sooooo well with H and I. We've had some "firsts" the last few weeks....y'know since the turn around....
We've had friends over for BBQs...went really well, H very helpful, complimentary, fun....
Had my best friend for an overnight....she knows the entire sitch....h was great with her. Friendly, helpful with dinner, fun....his ole self.
H is planning, really planning a cool trip with me the first of Sept. We are heading for Europe for 12 days, booked the tickets yesterday....he's really involved in planning the logistics....seems as excited as me.
We are hanging together on the week-ends...golfing, walks, errands....the norm. He has only spent about 3 nights in his apt the last 2+months....Goes there about once a week to get stuff....but only is gone for an hour....I go with him part of the time.
H has NOT brought up OW as of yet. In my mind, I will need to get to this one day soon. But, don't want to push him quite yet. I have a mtg with my counselor this week, will get some guidance on how to continue in a forward direction....and how/when to bring some of the hard stuff up. We have had a few simple arguements the last 2 months (maybe 3)....but nothing really difficult. He seems as willing to resolve as I do. We are talking so much better. I am putting him first for a change....something I didn't do for years. He appreciates this, and is recipricating.
He is talking with the kids and I about plans for the fall, niece's weeding, Thanksgiving, and plans for X-mas. It's all about "US" as a family....too cool.
I know I have to still keep myself in check....there are things I think about daily....in some ways have dealt with R issues into a way H hasn't. I feel I discovered so much about me and us....through spritual pursuits, reading, this BB, KLA tapes, etc. I wonder about evolving in ways H has not....and if he will catch up or want to. He is acting as tho last year hardly even happened....just kind, fun-loving, nuturing, respectful, etc. It's good....but the hurtful stuff will need to be resovled one day.
I will check back in after my session with my C. She gives me incredible advice and guidance...know that will help.
