Quote: That relieving the PRESSURE plan is really working with my H.
Yes it is AMAZING. Yet really so simple to the point where it boggles my mind when I look around the BB and see FEW people committed to doing it. LETTING GO & RELIEVING PRESSURE sets the foundation for a WA to come back IF THEY CHOOSE to. Even though you had a few setbacks here and there Mooka, you were consistent in allowing your H to "unstick" himself without trying to FIX too much. You also did an UNBELIEVABLE job in holding other parts of your family/social life together while he felt the need to seperate. That again RELIEVED PRESSURE OFF OF HIM. Not many people are strong enough not to overly panic and try to convince someone who needs to flee, not to flee. The STRONG ones see/think outside the proverbial "marital vows" box, allow their spouse their right to freedom outside the M and simply back off and let things unfold as they will. All the while of course, acting in a manner that would be conducive to DRAWING back someone romantically which as you've heard before revolves around.. STRONG QUIET CONFIDENCE, ACTING HAPPY, CASUAL INDIFFERENCE AND MYSTERY, and the ability to AGREE with NEGATIVE VIEWS ABOUT THE R OR M, and most importantly, SELF RESPECT (not pursuing someone with love and "giving" when it is not being reciprocated..). Those are all things that make us more attractive to someone who is trying to leave us, PLAIN AND SIMPLE.
Good job Mooka, I'm glad the "Unsticking" process appears to be ending on your doorstep...
