Nik and Wiley....I really appreciate you checking in and offering the continued encouragement.
Had another great week-end. H called me twice Friday night, one I missed....at a gf party....the second was later in the evening....he was at his apt. Giving me details of his trip....drive into the city...and he was ready to crash. He planned to come out the following morning and spend the week-end...thru Tues. (I leave Tue for another trip with my 2 best gf's)
We had a great day Sat....walked, talked,ML ... watched the US Open some. We made dinner reservations, got dressed up and went our to a favorite spot nearby. We had another toast...to hoping for 25+ wonderful years ahead. He talked some about work that night, so I took an opening and asked about OW. (I had not asked about her for 5-6 months!!!) He said he didn't want to talk about much of our recent past on this nice night together, but he did tell me she left the Co. at the end of the year...Dec?!?!? and he doesn't have any contact with her. He hears about her occaisionally through his staff who are personal friends of hers. That's it. But what a shocker for me....all along I thought he was working and talking with her daily!!!! This is huge for me to take in. That's what made me think about when(?) the last time I had brought her up. I shook my head, and said....well I wouldve had no reason to know that. He said, let's not talk anymore of the past tonight, and just enjoy our time together.
Sunday...went great too. He and I took a nice long walk, I went to church....he hit golf balls. We ran fun errands together...went out with our son to get golf lessons from him (he's an excellent golfer and teaches his parents!!). We had a B-B-Q...as H requested...and he opened presents from son and cards from me and the dog. He got up and came over an kissed me in front of son (this is big!) and thanked me for the nice card, nice dinner and great day. He's slowly starting to show bits and pieces of more affection throughout the day....it feels good.
Another overall positive for the week-end....there were about 3 times H could've gotten furstrated with me and in the past...would get harsh with words....this week-end, tho...he gently mentioned the issues (me being 20 min late after church...most of my issues that bug him center around timeliness!!)...anyway...he said "this isn't a real big deal, but when you give me a time to meet, try to stick to it....plan better, just out of respect." We also had a brief issue while driving....I was in the wrong turn lane...blah, blah, blah...I said..."oh well, we'll just have to turn around, again!" He kind of laughed...it softened the moment. Then when we got to the store we were looking for (which had moved!)...we started mocking each other about our tiff on where to go, which lane to be in, etc...just silly talk....and I then said...."boy these big fights are tough to take!" We laughed, because there was no fight....we both sucked it up momentarily, and then joked around about how silly little things can be. YEAH...he is working at improving our communication too!
Soooo many positives going on. He also talked about a trip WE could take together at the end of July....maybe to Europe using his mileage! He asked me to research it.....I'm good at that!
I called him this morning with some good news from his SIL....our neice (on his side) is having triplets!!! We were giggling about how they couldn't have kids for years and years, have 1 little girl...and now 3 healthy boys due in Nov!! He thanked me for calling him with the good news. Said he would be home on an early train tonight.
Yow..... Life is moving forward and I am thrilled. Still connecting spiritally and asking for patience and continued Dbing skills.
