Had a great, great week in Seattle. Had lots of events surrounding our D's graduation...dinners, ceremonies, brunches, more ceremonies, etc. H was around most evenings, all but one...he had a work related dinner that he completely informed me about. I stayed with him all but one night....very nice.
He and I celebrated our Anniversary yesterday....he changed his work travel plans to be here, asked me to come into the city...meet him at work....went to his apt, had a nice, simple dinner...ML ...talked about having more time on the week-end to celebrate, with a more formal dinner outing, and spending the days together.
It's so funny, cuz at his apt, he treats me like a real guest...getting wine, snacks, planning dinner, etc...asking me if I need anything, etc. I love it!
He's affectionate when he wants to be intimate...but not as much in-between.... Tho that was never his long suit...my LL is physical affection, his is quality time and uninterrupeted talks. I'm finally getting that. If I initiate a peck or gentle squeeze, he does respond. Just gotta keep my expectations in check.
Overall....I'm DBing the best I can. There are times, when I'm dying to press him on our R issues...but hold off. Taking the PRESSURE off is huge for him....he always draws closer when I do. (Even when I have stuff on my mind that takes me down...I shake it off the best I can, change the subject, lighten up and it goes sooo much better!!) He hasn't brought up our issues for a while. He does talk about our future together, tho. This is huge! Where we want to live someday....boating together, travel together, retirement...etc. Living a more simple life in the moutains...etc. It's great.
Also on our Anniversary last night, he toasted.."To 20+ wonderful years together, 2-3 ok years, 1 rough year and to 25 more wonderful years ahead." Wow...that was great!
He left this morning for his business trip, will be back tomorrow night. He's driving here, not into the city. He's only visiting his apt about once a week these past few weeks...has plans to be here all week-end.
I bought him a card, but have not given it to him. I thought I'd wait to see if he gets me something...a card or gift. I don't want to pressure that. He may not get the card til next year, who knows.
Just taking one day at a time...but feel that H is about 75% there....gotta continue to be patient.
Reading Love Languages was timely for me right now. Just focusing on what works and going from there. Hope one day he will be interested in reading that, so he can better understand me and my LL.
