Making changes and I AM LOVING the new me!!!!!!!!

[mylittlehalo]

nitaf,
Sounds like your H is fence sitting, and believ me I know how difficult this is to deal with. It's like they want us to be there at the beckon call but yet if we expect more from them it seems to push them away.
Not to hijack but I know my Xh takes it very personal when he cannot get a hold of me, he says things like "well, It's hard to get ahold of you sometimes, then he is very attentitive for the next few days.
You also seem to have concerns with ML, lack of ML, H's reaction etc... IMHO I believe it is a wonderful way for H and you to connect. Intimacy is very important in any R regardless of how fragile or stable the R is.
Not to hi-jack again but sometimes I feel closest to XH when we ML.
I hope things begin to look up for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you! Hope you have a great weekend