I know it is scary but you wont' know till you try. if he rejects you just say ok have a good evening, bye.
Stick your toe in and test the waters!
Right now you can't go off anything he says or does. You can only know what you want. Do you want him back? Do you love him? Are you changing? Are the changes evident? Are you busy, friendly, calm? If yes is the answer to those, then to hell with him! You can only do so much, if he can't cut you some slack then cut yourself some! It's a hard situation in which h will be looking to find all the faults with you...you need to be your own fan club!
Don't be down. I think because you are putting a timeline on it you are pressuring yourself to SEE something happen. It don't work like that it only serves to make you anxious. don't think of it in terms of 3-months, 6-months, 2-weeks whatever. Just go day by day, moment by moment. Wake up tomorrow and say today I'm going to 1. be friendly, 2. be upbeat when I talk to h, 3. validate as much as I can, 4. don't argue about anything, 5. be ok with the way things are right now, 6. no r talk, 7. don't ask h how he feels what he thinks about d, 8. pamper yourself with one small thing (get that bestselling book, visit the antique shop, go for a pedicure, take a bubble bath, etc.), 9. feed your spiritual self.
Take a deep breath and LIVE each day. Just today! Leave tomorrow to itself and you'll make it for as long as h wants to play this game. You can do it. I did 19 months! The worst hell ever...to look at last year this time it's like night and day! WE are going to Schlitterbahn waterpark on Sunday. When we went last year, he wouldn't touch me or let me touch him, he was horrible said stuff like I had someone else I could have brought with me but not in front of the kids, made fun of my stomach, ml to me but afterwards rolled far across the bed with his back to me. Left me the keys to his apartment while he left for 2 weeks to ohio with the kids. While there I found the letter to ow, he wrote the night before he slept with me said he loved her and wanted to see her when he got back from ohio. God the pain was awful!
Now here we are going to Schlitterbahn on Sunday and it's new. We are in love.
Things can turn around for you just like that...it's a matter of what you believe. Cause my faith in God turned my situation around. God made marriage. How can a mere man tear that apart? And though we all have free will sometimes our RIGHT thinking can be warped by Satan's attack. Pray for you husband to be released from the bondage of Satan that is speaking the lies of d to him. Rebuke Satan in the name of Jesus to leave your spouse NOW! Watch the miracle.
