Hi nitaf, just stopping by to check on you. I don't know WHY they do it, but they sure do pick on every little tiny detail to focus on as a BIG problem while overlooking the good changes...in my case, my H one day threw a fit, went wild, that part of the reason for his A was that I bought 2 lamps at goodwill for the family room without consulting him (cost a total of about 15 bucks!) when he's NEVER wanted to be bother about such stuff before....another time, part of the reason for his A was that I was "mean" to him, destroyed all his dreams. When I asked how, he said I had told him he didn't need a kayak!!!!!!I have no recollection of ever having such a discussion, but I probably did tell him such a thing....now, considering this guy who lives in the middle of KS owns 2 canoes and 1 kayak, it could possibly be a reasonable observation, but he chose to focus on it as a reason why he had an A.... I'm convinced they do grab at straws to justify their actions......I believe the best course of action is just what you did....ignore it, let it roll right off your back. The more you try to point out the fallacy of their perceptions, the more attached to them they get, so just consider it "crazy stuff" and ignore it....Hard as heck to do, I know.
