Hi there, Nitaf! First of all, relax! Now, re-read your statement about how it will take longer than 6 weeks to come back home. You are absolutely right about that! So, all you can do is relax.
The way I see, you titled your thread "Making changes and I am loving the new me," yet you are still questioning one of these changes. (The boundary issue.)
The lack of boundaries made you uncomfortable, right? You started off your post by saying that you would never do the things to your H that he feels comfortable doing to you.
That, Nitaf, is your answer.
This is not about whether or not the boundaries will help you get your H back or push him further away. When you question these things you are looking at these changes in terms of him, not yourself. What this IS about is what is right for Nitaf. If the boundaries helped YOU, then stick with them.
Boundaries, Nitaf, are not what broke up your marriage. They certainly won't prevent you from getting it back together either.
Do you really want to ease up on them, or are you doing it as a ploy to get your H back? If the answer is the latter, then keep things the way they are!
Then, stop obsessing on the boundary issue.
Get back to what is important here. That is YOU. Get out your goal list and get back to work. You cannot change whatever it is your H is going through right now. All you can do is stop reacting to it.
And, look again at your very last sentence. Something IS working here. Be patient, and don't push it. This did not happen overnight! It will not be fixed that quickly!
