Glad you clarified that he did call you. That puts a slightly different slant on things. In that light, I understand why you were questioning yourself as being controlling. Until that point, it looked like an issue of inconsideration toward you. Still, your conversations were good.
Just an example of the ongoing process of building trust!?
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.