Hi guy! No, not really using you...but also being self absorbed. I think sometimes we, the LBS, arent' supposed to have any feelings for the WAS to have to worry about.
But maybe, during the M, we didn't let our WAS KNOW what we were feeling aobut things. That being said, maybe, IF she brings it up again, just tell her that she confused you a bit by bringing up a going away party and then telling you it would be awkward if you went...sort of passive/aggressive ya know? So just let her know that you'd like to be there, and it kinda bothers you some that she would find it awkward, but she has a right to her own feelings...and then lie a little heehee and say that you wouldnt' feel awkward with OG there.....and let her try to digest that one! (If she is USING YOU, or trying to set you up ....that will get her going a bit and she deserves it) But if she isn't using you, she will think you have come a long way in forgiving...so either way, it might be good.
With things going so well, I am not advocating game playing per se, but sometimes we have to do or say something that triggers the WAS into realizing that we have feelings too.
And hey, when you get done with YOUR house, could ya come do a few things on my big yellow Victorian high in the Rockies? gd
