Is this what you mean?- Our "faults" might be "conflict avoidance" or "insufficient backbone" or "inability to be cruel to be kind" etc. not necessarily the "faults" that our spouses might assign us such as not being attentive enough or gaining 10lbs. or being too critical etc. If I look at it this way then I have to agree "Guilty as charged". Time to re-read PM .
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
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